Héloïse
What makes an act right or wrong is the intention behind it, not the deed itself – and real love seeks nothing for itself, not even marriage.
Placement
Scholar and abbess of the Paraclete: her letters to Abelard argue that the moral worth of an act lies in the intention, not the deed, and defend a love that seeks neither marriage nor gain.
Key ideas
- Ethics of intention
- Love without reward
- Critique of marriage as a contract
Teachers: Peter Abelard
Influence
Influenced by 3
Cicero
influenced by
Héloïse drew on Cicero’s ideal of friendship loved for its own sake to argue that true love seeks no reward, neither marriage nor gain (first letter to Abelard). Héloïse, first letter to Abelard, in The Letter Collection of Peter Abelard and Heloise, ed. D. Luscombe (2013); Cicero, De amicitia; C. J. Mews, The Lost Love Letters of Heloise and Abelard (1999)
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Cicero › 106–43 BCE
Seneca
influenced by
Arguing against marriage, Héloïse quoted Seneca’s letter that philosophy demands one’s whole time, as Abelard reports in the Historia calamitatum (c. 1132). Abelard, Historia calamitatum (c. 1132); Seneca, Epistulae morales 72.3; The Letter Collection of Peter Abelard and Heloise, ed. D. Luscombe (2013)
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Seneca › c. 4 BCE – 65 CE
Peter Abelard studied with
studied with
Attested by both: Abelard’s Historia calamitatum (c. 1132) tells how Fulbert engaged him as Héloïse’s tutor, and her letters to him recall it. Abelard, Historia calamitatum; Héloïse, letters to Abelard (ed. D. Luscombe, The Letter Collection of Peter Abelard and Heloise, 2013)
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Peter Abelard › 1079–1142
Works
- c. 1133Letters to Abelard
Replying to Abelard’s “History of My Calamities”: love before marriage, intention before deed – and a request for a monastic rule fit for women.
Position
Héloïse’s letters, written in reply to Abelard’s “History of My Calamities”, are both an account of a woman’s inner life and a work of moral argument. She insists that she never sought marriage or security but Abelard himself, and would rather be his “whore” than empress; love, she argues with Cicero and Seneca, is worth nothing if it seeks a reward. On this basis she states a strict ethics of intention: God weighs not what is done but the spirit in which it is done, so she cannot pretend to a repentance she does not feel. Abelard’s “Ethics” later developed the same principle. Most scholars now accept the letters as authentic.
Life & context
Héloïse (c. 1100–1164), niece of a canon of Notre-Dame in Paris, was famous for her learning before Peter Abelard became her tutor around 1115. Their love affair, her pregnancy, a secret marriage and Abelard’s castration by her uncle’s men ended with both taking religious vows. From about 1129 she was abbess of the Paraclete, the convent Abelard had founded, and corresponded with him; she died in 1164.
Further main works
- Problemata Heloissae (forty-two questions to Abelard; c. 1135)
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